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|Tuesday, August 4th, 2009|
LLLLLLLLLLLP! WILL NO MAN HELP????????????????????????????????????
????????????????????????????? Current Mood: anxious
|Wednesday, June 24th, 2009|
Many years ago I read a post in which a woman admitted the man she married acted like a Democrat when they were dating so she would feel more kindly toward him. He professed what she considered to be progressive attitudes on race, religion, etc. Then after they were married he revealed he was actually a hard core conservative. He had only acted that way previously because he thought that was the only way he could make her like him.
Now I don't care whether he was a progressive or a conservative. I'm not the one who has to fuck him either way. But when I read that I immediately thought to myself, "What else has he lied about?"
I don't get this. I mean the lying part. Especially the lying to a submissive part. I've said it before and I'll say it again, communication is the most important aspect of any relationship. I think most people in this lifestyle, or any other, take that to heart. They not only believe it they practice it. And if you're a Dom, or profess to be one, again -- why would you lie to a woman/slave/submissive in the first place?
To empower yourself? But shouldn't you already be empowered if she's tied up at your feet, begging you with her eyes to use her body for nothing more than your pleasure?
I don't know. I've often thought of that situation, trying to wrap my head around it. It's no surprise to those who follow my journal what I think of men in general. Or what passes for men nowadays. And I don't mean whether or not they agree with my own sexual philosophy, just the fact they are unwilling to stand up for themselves. The constant hand wringing and wheedling and begging just so they can get laid.
Maybe it's just me but I find that sort of behavior appalling. And I've had more than one woman who has submissive tendencies admit to me that she does, too. So maybe it's not just me. Anyway, not all people are alike. I get that. And I'm happy it's that way. I don't want robots in my life. But if you're going to be a Master and you have a woman (or anyone) you view as your submissive, and she's agreed to this arrangement...then why risk your self-respect (and hers) by lying?
These are the men, the wheedlers and the pretenders, I call "hamsters' and I think for the most part I'm standing on pretty solid ground when I use that term.
It just makes me angry. All that good slave pussy put to waste. Man. What a shame.
Kinda makes me want to go out there and spank someone. Current Mood: disappointed
|Tuesday, June 23rd, 2009|
|Tuesday, May 5th, 2009|
Does anyone in this community have experience with restricting a woman's food intake as a behavior modification tool? Current Mood: blah
|Tuesday, August 5th, 2008|
pay ur respects kill femininnies. Current Mood: angry
|Friday, June 20th, 2008|
|Saturday, May 24th, 2008|
A yearly reminder that the greatest atrocity of sexual discrimination is alive and well. That 99% of the dead, wounded, maimed, and pyscologically damaged people from combat are male simply because women are excluded because of their gender. This while they demand the "right" to "serve" and get the education and benefits.
What a f---ing joke.
|Sunday, May 18th, 2008|
Subsidizing lifestyle choices, why should businesses do this?
"I think I might ask once I am hired on about their pregnancy policies and also how long I have to be working for vacation so I can use some of that too. I know there are probably a lot of women who haven't been working a year and have gotten pg.
There is discrimination against women in the workplace due to sexism and entrenched culture, and this is the other side, where women contribute to the problem. What company wouldn't prefer men as employees over women like the above? An honest person would be up-front about their plans, but then no one would hire them.
|Saturday, May 17th, 2008|
Men's Domestic Violence Helpline here. Share the link.
The reason I post that link (aside from the value of spreading the word) is because of this story here. Down toward the bottom of the piece is an item about a young man who was raped by one of these girl gangs. Excuse me, the girls were convicted of "...false imprisonment, assault, and causing a person to engage in sexual activity without consent.", not rape.
Makes me wonder if in the UK, as in some jurisdictions in the US, it is not legally possible to rape a male.
In any case, men and boys who have been on the receiving end of this and other kinds of violence need to quit "taking it like a man" and report their attackers/abusers. If enough do, we probably won't get "social justice" (whatever that means) but we might get equality before the law.
|Wednesday, May 14th, 2008|
rules of engagement?
I want to hear some thoughts from the rest of the community here. we all understand the concept of 'rules of engagement', yes?
If not, let me explain. supposing the national guard get called out onto the streets after a major disaster. they get given guns and orders to use them, but this isn't a battlefield. they are not facing an invading enemy, they are facing their own fellow citizens. These guys they are up against may be looters, but they are mostly unarmed civilians. so, they get cut a bit of slack for that.
depending on the situation. the troopers may be told to fire warning shots over their heads, or told they can only fire directly at them after a warning has been given. Even cops, who are civilians themselves, are somewhat reticent to open fire indiscriminately. it just isn't done.
so, taking this to a wider context - if a woman is giving a guy a hard time - in a bar, on the internet, anywhere - how is it acceptable for a guy to respond?
How far can a man let a woman go without being deemed a loser? does he just have to ' stand and take it? if not, how does he respond when a woman crosses the line?
|Thursday, May 8th, 2008|
I will not be very responsive for a few days, my father just died. He married my mother when I was 5, and treated me as a son, same as my brothers and sisters. He served his country for 22 years, and after he retired from the Navy, he served veterans as a counselor for twenty more. He got a Political Science degree from University of Washington (and got turned down for Law School despite passing the entrance requirements - wrong sex, too white). He told wonderful stories, knew how to see the humor in every situation, and wrote three and 3/4 excellent books after he became house-bound. One of them at least, was semi-autobiographical. Current Mood: sad
Dad was raised in the Depression, and thought that the kid next door was posh, because he had shoes and Dad didn't. The fact that the kid next door was black was a matter of indifference to him, as it was to most people of his class at the time -"po white trash", I suppose. Regardless, Dad and the neighbor kid would bring home squirrel for dinner when they could, and laughed a lot despite having very little - for Dad's family, "how much" was never as important as "enough" and skin color meant nothing compared to "neighbor." Everybody was Dad's neighbor, if they let him be their neighbor. He taught us that, and much else beside.
He passed peacefully, in his own home, survived by his wife of 53 years, my mother, and five children who love him and miss him very much.
Dad was a Christian, so I expect he is telling shaggy dog stories to St. Peter right now.
Male Birth Control Pill
Interesting take on the subject here
. Has anyone ever surveyed men to find out how many of them don't trust women to take their pill?
|Wednesday, May 7th, 2008|
Us and them
It has been suggested that men need to have sex - and therefore feminism isn't gonna work. "Men need sex. this is basic to their biology, and women should just get over it" - I think this is how the argument would run.
Sure, there are many guys who are disappointed with 'high maintainance' western women from europe and America and go off to bring back a bride from Thailand. my take on it is like this -
look at the icon . That is me holding an African Tawny Eagle.
Now, you may thing that all wild animals are the same as a dog or a horse - you can get yourself a whip and beat it into submission. if so , you would be wrong. Dogs and even horses are social animals, they live in packs , herds and what have you. they understand the concept of a group leader and taking orders, falling into a heirarchy.
An eagle doesn't. It has wings and talons, together with a razor sharp bill. it can catch it's own dinner and don't need you. if you are going to form any kind of relationship with an eagle it has to be based on mutual advantage and trust.
So, yeah, i have this eagle on my wrist, and it is happy to be there. were this not so , it would try to rip my head off. I never beat this bird into submission , I had to win it;'s owner's trust first - and even then , i had to win the bird over first.
So how does this relate to women? Well, Western women are rather like eagles. They have a vote, an education and can catch their own dinner. they are therefore only oing to let you approach on their own terms.
At this point, a guy will either step up and say "fine , I can handle that" or go for an easier option like a Labrador puppy or a Thai bride . Something that won't challenge him or be too ' hi maintainance'.
I think that, as men, we have to recognise that women have raised the bar these days. they no longer need men for money, but they do want a man on their own terms. A man wants sex. A woman wants affection , respect, someone who values her for more than being a sex object. Are we men enough to handle that, guys? or is it ' too hi maintainace'?
I mean , we tell our kids "it's ok to stroke puppies in pet shops, but if you take it home, you have to feed it, take it for walks and be responsible for it." As men , are we meeting the needs of our partners as well as we meet the needs of our dogs? seriously, i think that some men get off on the idea of having a woman pouring their beers, but are not willing to meet the commitment in meeting *her* needs.
For the record, I never married a woman from Thailand, but from Britain. She is better educated than me, more intelligent in terms of IQ tests, and although I hold down a decent job, she has professional qualifications and earns more money. And yet she respects me for being a man. a better man than some other guys out there, including her ex.
Why? Because, unlike him, I have shown her that I am a mature and responsible adult who can be trusted, who takes the trouble to find out what she wants and likes and makes sure this happens. I don't want to see feminism abolished. i do think that some women think ' "ok - I am gonna call myself a feminist! Hear me roar!!"
No , sorry, it doesn't work like that. Getting blind drunk and falling into the gutter does not make you an adult. if you are male or female, it does not get you my respect. if you can't look after yourself, I am not doing it for you - I want a partnership with someone my equal, and a drunkard isn't.
I think that aiming to be a responsible, self sufficient adult will only get people's interest if they are on that level. The gold diggers will move on , and the women who are worth knowing will stick around and want to be around you.
I just want to put this out and see what you guys make on that.
|Monday, May 5th, 2008|
okay, i'm a newbie here, but I recognise some names from over on anti fem.
for my first post, I want to talk about feminism , and what *I* mean by that.
feminism goes back a lot further than most ppl think, and the first group of feminist thinkers were around before the word 'feminist' got invented.
basically, they wanted women to have the vote, the same rights to get credit on their own name and run their own finances without a man's permission. on summed it up like this " we wish to have the same liberties for ourselves as men have under the law. Nothing more, and nothing less".
Not special treatment, you will notice. That came later. People who do feminism as a academic study define such a stance as 'First wave feminism', later on there was 'second wave' and even 'third wave'.
But getting back to the idea of equality - if we now have maternity leave, and agree that it is good for the child to be with it's mother instead of being dumped with a child minder while mother goes to work, what about men having paternity leave? ( Read more...Collapse )
|Saturday, May 3rd, 2008|
Interesting article here
on the joined topic of "real" men and "real" women. I thought that the point that we should be talking about "real" adults
is good. Note that much of the discussion revolves around personal responsibility, and the lack of a standard for personal responsibility for women.
Thoughts? Comments? Current Mood: contemplative
|Friday, May 2nd, 2008|
"All women aren't like that...."
When a man talks about a bad experience with an ex, or being dissed by female friends, or even some of the more common "man-Bad/Woman-Good" behaviors seen daily, as often as not there is a woman around who will tell him that All Women Aren't Like That. Doubtless true.
Let's try a thought experiment. Say rape was made legal tomorrow. Most men would not be inclined to rape, but does it do any good to tell a rape victim "All Men Aren't Like That"?
C'mon womyn - a guy loses his children, his family life, his home, his savings and his future in family court, and from women he gets "All women are not like that!" and (of coruse) "you should have known better!". Would you tell a rape victim such things, with the sexes reversed? Women are supposed (by women) to be the sex in tune with emotional issues, the kinder and gentler sex, the sex whith social sensibilities. That kind of crap might be expected of adolescents. Use those emotional smarts on men once in a while.
"All women aren't like that...". Prove it! Current Mood: cranky
|Wednesday, April 30th, 2008|
Family Court's awesome double standards
For one thing I've come to the conclusion that too many feminists(at least the lj variety and those who make their living milking the system like Gloria Allred) are as bad as any white male social conservative when it comes to happily ignoring a status quo that benefits them. And amusingly, today's Dr. Phil
picks up on this theme.
Basically, many states have something called a "Putative Fathers Registry". If a would-be or suspected father registers there and then jumps through all kinds of hoops, he has a slim chance of being able to do things like adopt a baby that the mother wants to give up. Unless she denies him contact, doesn't let him contribute financially, etc. in which case, his rights go back to zero.
However, should the mother/new adoptive family ever decide to pursue child support, it doesn't matter whether he registered or not, because it's all about the money
needs of the child.
Federal Welfare reforms have made it so that the states all have to pursue any and all means possible of offloading costs for any single mothers. In California, a man can be named by the woman as father and unless he contests it within 30 days is declared the father by default and pursued for child support, including back pay, regardless of subsequent DNA tests, never having met the mother, etc. And the view of the state in response to these errors? Sue us.Injustice by Default
A post on anti_feminism where the female author is savaged: Mothers and 'Childrens' rights' > Mens' rights
|Thursday, April 17th, 2008|
Feminist hypocrites spit in these men's faces with their victimhood
WASHINGTON - Some 300,000 U.S. troops are suffering from major depression or post-traumatic stress from serving in the wars in Iraq and Afghanistan, and 320,000 received brain injuries, a new study estimates.
Only about half have sought treatment, said the study released Thursday by the RAND Corporation.
“There is a major health crisis facing those men and women who have served our nation in Iraq and Afghanistan,” said Terri Tanielian, the project’s co-leader and a researcher at the nonprofit RAND.
“Unless they receive appropriate and effective care for these mental health conditions, there will be long-term consequences for them and for the nation,” she said in an interview with The Associated Press.
The 500-page study is the first large-scale, private assessment of its kind — including a survey of 1,965 service members across the country, from all branches of the armed forces and including those still in the military as well veterans who have left the services.Men AND women my ass. 99.9% of those suffering are men.( Read more...Collapse )
|Wednesday, April 16th, 2008|
Speaking of hypocrisy....
In this post in feminist
engages in a post that speaks to minorities inner racism. lapsarianesque
speaks to the inner racism in countries less diverse like China. capsicumanuum
replies that white people screw everyone, everywhere, worldwide.
In the end, lapsarianesque is kicked out of Feminist
for derailing the conversation. Now, by the considerations of Feminism, lapsarianesque
is a good "Feminist". BUT, she faces the typical tear and weakness of Feminism and it's division. lapsarianesque
is white, and she essentially has to admit to the "Women of Color" (an inner group within Feminism) that she is an inherint abuser of others because she is white. That makes her for intents and purpose a second class member. To be participatory, she has to accept that she is not the real minority, that the Women of Color are.
Her punishment for not doing so quickly enough is banishment from Feminist. The telling comment that went unchallenged was as follows.You are derailing the conversation. You are trying to turn what started as a discussion of racism in the context of the United States into a discussion of racism in China. People in the US, regardless of whether the immigrated here or were born here, or where they immigrated from, are subject to assimilation of white racism because white racism is fucking everywhere.
The hypocrisy, it reeks bad.